Can you believe that I’m still not used to the idea of my boyfriend being my fiancé? I keep referring to him as my boyfriend, and people have to keep correcting me. Oops. How do you get used to changing someone’s label? He’s had the “boyfriend” label on him for so long now. That’s quite a bit of paperwork.
Now that I do, in fact, have a fiancé, I should probably start thinking about planning this thing, huh? Yeah, probably. I can’t even begin to wrap my head around the adventure that is wedding planning. So many details, costs, stress. Ehhh, city hall, anyone? Don’t get me wrong, I love him and I’m excited to be getting married finally. And I’m really looking forward to dress shopping. But…that’s about it. I don’t know how I’m supposed to pick a date and a place and all the other nonsense involved. Don’t weddings seem to be more about the guests anyway? You have to feed them and impress them and stuff. Le sigh. I sound horrible, don’t I? But really, even applying for a marriage license sounds confusing. And they expire after only about 30 days. What the hell! Why should you even need a fucking license to get married? Driving a car, sure, but getting married? Ugh. You know how I feel about stupid rules.
My friend Michelle, whose beautiful wedding I was recently in, has been very helpful. It’s nice that she got to go through this first, because now I get to annoy her with questions, lol. And I’ll get to annoy my mom and all you lucky readers too! Any tips or suggestions are required welcome. Seriously, help me. How does one stay sane while trying to plan a wedding? Especially when said wedding is in Puerto Rico, and I live in New Jersey. WHAT??? How did I get myself into this mess? Oh yeah, because I said, “Yes!”
~Lily~
P.S. I really do love him. I know I’m complaining a lot, but that’s what future brides are supposed to do. I just want to have our special day and that’s it. Just cut the crap and skip right to the honeymoon happily ever after. Is that so bad?
~Don't Quote Lily~ 
I got married almost 18 years ago so if you need any questions answered, I’ll have no idea for you. Free of charge. I’ll be your official non-wedding planner.
Lol, gee thanks. 😉
Congratulations!
Thanks!
Wow! Congrats Lily! That’s so exciting! You will make a beautiful bride! I always felt weird with the transition of boyfriend to fiance as well! But once you’re married, calling him your husband will feel the most natural!
Thanks Lily! Yeah, maybe it’s just that “fiance” is french and snooty sounding. “Husband” on the other hand, does feel more natural! 🙂
You think the transition from girlfriend to fiancé is difficult. Wait till you go from fiancé to wife. The fun is just beginning.
Yup, much to look forward to, I’m sure. 😉
Nenita, LOVING that ROCK!!! We haven’t seen you much here in wordpress land so I thought you had eloped and moved to a deserted island with him! 🙂
WOW. That will be challenging planning from NJ for the big day in PR. But, with Skype and FaceTime and Ichat and scanners and all – it will be much easier! You can do a lot without having to go there. Do you have a Tia or a Prima that can help you there?
Gracias! Haha, I wish we could just elope, lol…would be so much easier! And yeah, I’ve been pretty MIA from wordpress land. Just not inspired to write. =/
Thank God for technology, for sure, but will still be tough. I have mostly older relatives who I can’t have running around for me…I have one young cousin who would help me BUT she doesn’t have a car SOOO…lol. I’m going on vacation end of January so a ver si logro conseguir algo!
Congratulations!!
Being married is amazing, planning a wedding not so much. But, and listen to wise old PinotNinja, it is all worth it. Every less stress meltdown, annoying detail, and squabble with your crazy relative. I hate how cliched this is, but one of the best days of my life was my wedding and I am so glad that I had one (I was thisclose to eloping). It’s really the only day in your life when you get to put everyone you love in the same room, be the prettiest person in that room, and then have a ridiculous dance party.
Also, don’t worry about impressing your guests, worry about making sure you have a good time. If you’ve got booze, snacks, music, and a great attitude, everything else is just gravy.
Thanks! Appreciate your words! I’m sure it will be a wonderful day. Just gotta try not to be negative about all this planning nonsense! Haha, and you’re right, with music and booze, my guests will be more than happy. 😉
A BIG CONGRATULATIONS to you! I think eloping is the best thing ever because it doesn’t cost you the earth and you don’t have to please other people. If I could do it all over again, I’d elope 😀
Thank you! Haha, seriously, the idea of eloping is appealing to me more and more every day. Sooo easy! Lol.
As the song goes “love is in the air” – best of luck
Thank you. 😉
I am so excited for you although my excitement in this case may be completely unproductive since I’ll be the annoying person on the side who has no idea how to help or be helpful but is still dancing around going, “you’re getting married! you’re getting married!” I just annoyed myself, typing that.
The only thing I can offer you is a humble opinion, should you ever need help deciding on whether lilac or champagne looks better on your bridesmaids (and other small but significant decisions like that). I’m not sure if you mentioned this at some point already, but if its not too big/personal of a question to ask, will you be staying in NJ after the big day?
Er, I mean, coming back to NJ afterwards. Sorry, brain still slightly scrambled from this first week back to school.
Haha, thanks! Totally understandable. I wasn’t very productive or helpful in my friend’s wedding, I was just very very happy for her, but totally clueless about what to do! As I am now, lol. I plan to ask for opinions on wedding colors and other nonsense, so glad to know I can count with your opinion!
As much as my boyfriend would love to stay in PR, we will be coming back to NJ. For how long, who knows, but this cold, traffic-filled place is home, haha. I just don’t know about the honeymoon. Would be kind of sad to stay in PR for that, because come on, we go there ALL THE TIME. We’ll see!
I don’t know much about the wedding business. I’m flying to Miami in three weeks for one of my brother’s second wedding, and I’m worried enough about just showing up and being dressed properly. Does Atlantic City make weddings as easy as Vegas does? I mean, that’s where I got married, and it was definitely a more efficient process there. 😉 Seriously, super duper congratulations!
Thanks! Enjoy the wedding. 😉
And yeah, you’d think Atlantic City could have a Vegas-y thing going on too when it comes to marriages. I’m definitely up for something smooth and efficient, non-stressful! We’ll see… I’m just gonna take my time on that… 😉
It’s YOUR day (alright, it’s his day too)… not everyone else’s… but the friends and family who love y’all will treasure being a part of it. That’s already too much advice so I’m shutting up 😀
Congratulations beautiful. I’m so happy for you. squishy hugs
Thank you, hugs back!
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I had NO IDEA!!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! And that ring is a BLINDER!!!! (That means it’s massive and sparkly – I want no lost-in-translation moments here!) xx
Haha, thanks!! Appreciate the translation. It’s far from massive but I’ll take it! 😉
Too cute :). Love the bling. Got married almost 9 years ago and it was small… Don’t think I have any advice except stay in the moment ( wedding day) that is… It might not be perfect but it will be perfect and truly beautiful for you.
Plus you get to spend the rest of your life with someone you truly love and care about. Yep that’s the sweet side I think :).
Congrats again Lily! If it wasn’t so far I would totally crash lol
LOL… Aw, thanks! Yup, I don’t want to stress it…nothing is perfect! We’re not, so why should our wedding be, lol. It’ll fall into place eventually…right? Surely. 😀