Oh, You Didn’t Mean To Put It There?

Hello lovely bloggers. I decided I wanted to blog about a subject that can be considered controversial: cheating. As in sleeping with someone who’s NOT your partner. Yeah, I can hear you all clicking the “Back” button on your browser. Come on, don’t leave. I’ve never been cheated on {that I know of…I’m adding that in there for all you skeptical people} but I still feel very strongly about this subject. It happens all the time, and it’s the subject of so many movies, TV shows, songs…it’s every-frickin-where. So why not blog about it? I know why, because people might think I’m being judgmental. That’s not what I’m going for though. Regardless…don’t take it up the woo-ha, okay?

I get really pissed off when people make excuses for cheating. “I’m sorry. I made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes.” Oh, it was a mistake? You mean you didn’t MEAN to put it THERE? You were all set to “putt” but you accidentally got it in the wrong HOLE? It was dark and you just couldn’t see? That changes everything, I totally understand. NOT!! Cheating is NOT a mistake, it’s a CHOICE. Own up to it, jerk. We’re all responsible for our actions. It’s not like cheating at a game of Chess; this is REAL life. {Chess is really hard though, so I wouldn’t blame you.}

I’m not saying you’re an awful person if you cheat; I’m only implying it. {Oh shit, you probably think I’m being judgmental.} But if you cheat and then lie about it or try to justify your actions, well…that’s kind of rotten, don’t you think? I think people who physically cheat must not realize (or care) how it affects the other person. Cheating is an utter betrayal of the relationship, that person’s trust and their feelings. What’s worse is that it shows a complete lack of respect for your partner. If nothing else, don’t you think you owe your partner at least that? {Oh, you don’t think so? That’s because you’re an ass.}

I’ll never understand why people do it. Save me all the BS about “the heat of the moment” and whatever other nonsense. Don’t put yourself in temptation’s way and then use that as an excuse. And more importantly, be honest with your partner and show them some respect. If you don’t love them anymore, or you’re flat out BORED and just looking for a good time, break up with your partner! Why are people so unwilling to break up, yet totally okay with betraying their significant other? Hmm, should I end things NOW in respect for my partner…OR…should I be awful and betray him, enjoy myself, break his heart and have this whole thing end on its own terms? Decisions, decisions. {That’s sarcasm, if you couldn’t tell.}

Now, before I get bitched at, I do understand there are people who truly regret having cheated on someone, people who are honest and have confessed what they did. I still can’t justify the cheating part, but it takes a lot of courage to own up to something like that, so I can respect that. That leads me to my next point. I’ve heard people say things like, “I know what I did was wrong, but please forgive me. Don’t you think I deserve a second chance?” WHOA. Seriously, dimwit? How on God’s green earth did you come to the conclusion that the person YOU BETRAYED owes you anything? Which part of your lovely betrayal qualifies you for a second chance? The part where you only slept with ONE other person, even though you could have slept with several people? {Aw, how considerate of you.} Yes, your partner MAY end up forgiving you, but that doesn’t mean you DESERVE it.

If my boyfriend cheated on me and I decided NOT to forgive him, would that make me a bad person? Would people JUDGE ME for being close-minded or unwilling to forgive? Would they assume that by not forgiving him, I am somehow making a statement that I expect perfection? People could think any of those things, but no, I don’t expect anyone to be perfect. However, as I mentioned previously, cheating is not a mistake, it’s a choice. I just think it’s unfortunate how often people decide to cheat. It happens so often that when you tell someone you’ve never cheated on anyone or been cheated on, they look at you like you have three heads. “Get out! Really? Never?” People just assume everyone’s done it or been through it, as if that somehow makes it okay. I don’t think it’s okay but hey, that’s just me. What do I know?

~Lily~

PS: If you’re about to unfollow me, please give me a second chance. Go look through some other posts! I hardly do this type of thing, I swear. Umm…I love you.